Sex Myths Debunked by Medical Experts!
POSTED ON THURSDAY, DECEMBER 27, 2012 AT 3:03 PM
There is a lot of misinformation about sexual health. Discussions regarding sex education usually revolve around educating teenagers. But increasingly, sexual health experts say, adults are in need of sex education, too. With the onslaught of pop cultural influences such as the literary phenomena 50 Shades of Grey and HBO’s GIRLS, a new series about twenty-something adulthood, femininity and sexuality, a dual gender awareness movement is taking root. With all of the information being funneled through, what’s a man and woman to do to ensure they are not suckered in by an ideal that doesn’t translate into reality? And how can one decipher whether or not all of this information is actually legitimate? Myths about sex are rife in our society. They occur because people pass off partial information as fact. Or, just as often, they have no information and invent sexual facts.
“When you were younger, you might have believed in things like the idea that you could get an STD
from a toilet seat or that guys reach their sexual peak at 18 years old,” says Dr. Michael Werner
board-certified, fellowship-trained urologist & Medical Director of the New York Adropause Center,
the leading treatment facility for male infertility and sexual dysfunction. “But now that you're older
and wiser, most sex myths are pretty easy to spot. Still, there's the occasional snippet of sexual hearsay
that keeps you guessing, and all that misinformation could be preventing you from making smart
choices and living a healthier life.”
“It’s the right time to embrace the discussion of sexual education,” says Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus
MPH, PhD & Clinical Director of the Medical Center for Female Sexuality, a medical center committed
to helping women solve their sexual health challenges and achieve a healthier, more satisfying sex
life. “The best place to get information about your sexual health is from a medical expert in this field,
but for whatever reason - convenience, privacy, or anxiety and urgency - people are searching the
Internet for answers to intimate and important questions. The NYAC and MCFS’s goal is to ensure that
women and men are well informed so that they can achieve full and satisfying sex lives.”
Below, Dr. Werner and Dr. Marcus reveal the facts behind common sexual health misconceptions.
MYTH: A Turned On Woman Is A Lubricated Woman
False. According to Dr. Marcus, “Some women’s skin is more oily or more lubricated than others. How
much vaginal secretion a woman has is often a matter of genetics and life stage. Lubrication is based on
the individual woman; and some women just have more of it than others.”
MYTH: “Real” Women Orgasm from Intercourse
False. Only 30% of women (that’s 3 out of 10 women!) can achieve orgasm from intercourse alone. 7 out
of 10 women need additional stimulation from a hand, a mouth or a vibrator. Many women will enjoy
orgasms while they are having intercourse but they will be using an additional method of stimulation on
their clitoris while they are having intercourse.
MYTH: Size Matters
True. But it’s probably not what you think. “Of the hundreds of women we see here annually at the
center we rarely, if ever, encounter a complaint about a penis being too small,” notes Dr. Marcus. “We
do, however, have many, many women complaining that their partner is too large and that they have
pain with intercourse.”
MYTH: A Woman Happy in a Relationship is a Woman Filled with Desire
False. It’s hard to make that case when you see teenagers with sky-high libidos. A woman’s desire is
correlated to many variables and the quality of her relationship is only one. Stress, hormones, societal
expectations and ability to get pleasure can play just as important a role as her relationship!
MYTH: Longer Intercourse is Better Intercourse
False. Wrong again. “Men who take longer in bed may actually be experiencing trouble ejaculating,”
explains Dr. Werner. Average intercourse lasts 3 to 5 minutes with the man ejaculating after that period
of time. Some women and men enjoy longer intercourse and can last 10, 20, even 30 minutes. Many
women however will complain that their vaginas get sore after 7 to10 minutes.
MYTH: Only Wild Women Use Vibrators (Kinky Sex Toys) for Masturbating
False. Vibrators are the often the most effective way to reach orgasm for many women and are
often used in partnered sexual experiences. Studies indicate that 52% of women have used vibrators
and 40.9% have used them while having partnered sex. More and more “mainstream” women are
discovering vibrators as a vehicle for healthier and satisfying sex lives.
MYTH: Women Peak Sexually at an Older Age than Men
False. It depends what one means by peak. Dr. Marcus elaborates, “Generally speaking, sexually speaking
for women is defined by satisfaction as opposed to libido. For men, sexually peaking is defined by libido
as opposed to satisfaction.” If one defined sexually peaking purely by libido, then men and women
would both be peaking in their twenties. Testosterone levels decline with age across the reproductive
years; by the time women reach their late 40’s, their blood testosterone levels are approximately half
what they were in their 20’s.
About Dr. Michael Werner, MD, FACS
training in male infertility and surgery and male sexual dysfunction at Boston University Medical Center.
He lectures and writes extensively on these topics in medical journals and books.
Dr. Werner completed his Urology residency at Mount Sinai Medical Center in Manhattan and received
his medical school training at the University of California at San Francisco. He holds an undergraduate
degree in Biology from Harvard College. Dr. Werner’s private practice is limited to male infertility and
male sexual dysfunction.
About Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, LMSW, MPH, PhD
Bat Sheva Marcus wrote her dissertation on women and vibrator use while earning her Doctor of
Philosophy in human sexuality from the Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Dr. Marcus
has a Master’s in public health from the same institution. She is a licensed social worker with a Master’s
degree from Columbia University.
the launch of the Center in 2000.
Although in recent years her work has focused on the area of female sexuality, in the past she has
also worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices
and laboratories. She is a frequent guest on television and radio and has lectured both nationally and
overseas on a wide variety of women's issues.